February is typically a month where there is a LOT of focus on the emotion of LOVE. LOVE & ROMANCE – what dreams are made of, right? Prince Charming coming and sweeping you off your feet and taking you away on his white horse to live happily-ever-after. #SWOON Give me some of THAT!
SCRATCH THAT! That isn’t what REAL love is and if you’re waiting for that, well, you’re going to be waiting a long time, in fact, forever. Even if he comes, he isn’t going to know how to love you well UNLESS YOU ALREADY know EXACTLY what you love and what drives you and you understand how your thoughts drive your feelings which fuel your actions.
The way to make sure you are loved well by others in your life is for YOU to love YOURSELF well so people know how to treat you. They will treat you how you treat yourself. I like how Jordan Peterson, the author, speaker, psychologist talks about it. He says, you should treat yourself like someone you love dearly and are responsible to care for. Think about it for a minute. Do you? Do YOU treat yourself precious? Do you care for yourself as if you are a child dependent on it? (you ARE)
How might you answer these questions: Are you hydrating your body adequately? Do you eat wholesome, nutritious, clean food? Do you make allowances for any issues your body is experiencing? (cut out gluten/dairy/etc) Do you participate in exercise regularly? Are you building physical strength and resilience? Do you regularly practice habits of detoxing your body? Do you practice excellent oral hygiene (floss daily?)? Do you get adequate amounts of sleep regularly? (7 hours or more) Do you avoid substances/habits that are harmful to your body? Do you keep your word to yourself? IOW do you do what you SAY you will do, and NOT do what you say you won’t? Do you maintain healthy relationships? Do you feel and process your emotions regularly? (or do you stuff them?)
The truth of the matter is that it requires EFFORT to LOVE yourself AND it is the BEST effort you can put into the world. It requires a LOT of introspection to determine WHAT IS IT that actually does light your fire? WHAT ARE your dreams? WHAT IS your purpose? WHAT ARE your gifts to share with the world? Do you remember?
Here are some ways for you to tune in and start to prioritize yourself:
Listen to your body and hydrate and nourish it well.
Allocate time for rest and rejuvenation daily.
Listen to your intuition, trust yourself.
Keep promises to yourself.
Show up for yourself in every moment.
Have and enforce boundaries. (boundaries are to keep you safe, not manipulate someone else’s behavior)
Raise your standards, hold yourself accountable.
Build confidence & competence.
Remove anything that doesn’t add value to your life.
Honor your preferences, no matter how small they seem.
Say no with grace and without excuse when you WANT to say no.
Honoring your preferences seems like a no-brainer but really it isn’t. If you CAN CHOOSE and the choice is between something you ,like BETTER, you should always choose what you prefer. You vibrate higher and show up better when you’re at your best and you are at your best when your emotions are well regulated and you are making steps towards accomplishing your goals. It truly is “the Climb” like Miley Cyrus once used to sing.
So THEN – how do we get LOVE in the “AIR”? With your oils of COURSE! There are quite a few “heart-centered” oils which are great for the physical heart and the emotional heart: Ylang Ylang, AromaLife, Cistus, & Joy. All the floral oils minister to the heart and all the grounding oils will too. The citrus oils are all very uplifting. Basically ANY OILS or ALL THE OILS.
If you look up the emotion of LOVE in Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils, by Dr. Caroline Mein DC, you will see the oil, Release. The other side is “unconditional love” and the way out statement is “I view it from a higher higher perspective.” (There are TWO higher’s in that sentence. I’m not sure if it’s a typo or not, but it makes sense to me with two of them. I’ts HIGH-ERRRRR) The alarm point is the eye/brain. That point is just behind the ear across the back of the head to behind the other ear. Isn’t that interesting? We’re going to use RELEASE on the back of our head/across the back of the brain to access LOVE. LOVE is coming from our THOUGHTS about the person/thing/OURSELVES – THAT is what generates the feeling. Using RELEASE – we consider the issues we face as coming from a higher perspective and we RELEASE the thoughts that are not serving us towards that goal. You can also apply it to the tips of the earlobes for another point that will “open the mind”.
As you honor your preferences more and more and only say yes when you want to whole-heartedly you will become more aware when others are treating you in a way that isn’t loving and you will be able to negotiate for what you need or make the changes needed to ensure your love-cup is staying full. Because whose job IS IT to make sure it’s full? It is YOUR job. You fill your OWN love cup.
Life has taken me on a little bit of a wild ride of late, how about you? In the years since my last post I’ve been divorced, remarried and divorced again. Sometimes it be like that. I will say I love who I’ve become through the process of living and loss. I love how the Lord is softening my rough edges. I love how it’s gotten much easier to forgive and to say I’m sorry when I mess up and I’ve learned how to give myself grace in the same way I would any other person.
My last children living at home have left. Empty nest is what some may say. I just view it as my place of peace, my retreat center, if you will. I’ve added lots more grand children and I’ve moved 4, maybe 5 times. I’ve landed back in FLA where I grew up. I’ve gotten re-acquainted with some of my old friends from my high school days.
I found I actually DO like to cook, and I DO NOT mind living totally alone. Everything is where you put it in that case and it’s never more QUIET or more LOUD than you CHOOSE for it to be.
One thing that has NOT changed is my essential oil use. I still use them in all the ways, preemptively and also to treat any issue I’m facing. I love my company and the many people I’ve been able to meet and partner with over the years. I designed some oily affirmation cards which you can find here and I wrote a book which will be out soon. It focuses on using your oils intuitively.
I’ve not loved saying goodbye to a few who’ve moved in different directions but I’ve also learned how to value people even MORE when they are in my life. After all, we never know how long we have with someone, or even how long we have ourselves. I’ve regrettably said goodbye to friends who’ve passed on to the next life and on the other end of the spectrum, I’ve enjoyed welcoming each one of my 12 and counting grandchildren. There is NOTHING like getting their hugs and watching them learn and grow. I’m going to start making regular blog posts again! What would YOU like to hear about?
I just did a little search in Amazon to see how many books are available on essential oils and after counting to 106 books I quit counting. There are so many. You might think that is awesome that there is so much available and, in some ways, YES that is true! In other ways, and on the other hand, it is NOT good because many of the choices have little to no value at all for someone using a therapeutic grade essential oil. What is someone brand new supposed to do? How are you to wade through everything out there to know what is beneficial? The internet has even MORE information available than you can find in books. Everybody has an opinion and it is different than everyone else’s.
For instance, I read an article[1] this morning on Essential oil use on Healthline. It was written on July 3rd, 2018. “We want to help you own your well-being.” Is one of Healthline’s info taglines. In Healthline’s “About us” category they state:
“Healthline’s Medical Affairs team ensures that Healthline’s content, products, and services uphold the highest standards of medical integrity. Our dedicated team manages an extensive medical network of over 100 professionals covering more than 50 specialties, providing medical review, expert POVs, fact-checking, and clinical guidance. Healthline’s physicians, nurses, public health experts, and patient advocates help ensure that the information we publish is accurate, evidence-based, current, person-centric, and trustworthy.”
That sounds professional and scientific, right? The stated information in the last statement: accurate, evidence-based, current, person-centric, and trustworthy makes it sound authoritative. It also states that more than 200 MILLION health seekers turn to them every month. Why are we talking about this? The aforementioned article had details on several different essential oils including ways to use the oils, reasons to use them were mentioned and then there was a blurb on safety information and cautions. Among several inaccurate cautions I noticed is some information about Peppermint oil.
Before I give you the information, allow me to give you some preliminary easy-to-access information. The FDA has a list of GRAS (Generally regarded as safe for human consumption) essential oils, oleoresins and natural extractives.[2] It lists “Menthol” the main ingredient in Peppermint oil, and it also lists Peppermint oil itself. Peppermint oil is used as a common flavoring agent in many candies, gums, beverages, and even in pharmaceuticals.
Yet Healthline’s article gave the concluding remarks for peppermint of:
“Peppermint essential oil shouldn’t be ingested as it can cause serious side effects like heartburn, headaches, an irritated esophagus, and mouth sores. So, if you need to freshen your breath, just stick to actual mints.”
ALRIGHTY-then, let’s just think about this for a minute with our thinking caps on. The FDA regards peppermint essential oil as safe for flavorings in food and it also regards it as a dietary supplement. Dietary supplements are ingested. Dietary supplements are taken to maintain and enhance your quality of life and provide nutrients you aren’t getting in your diet alone.
Let’s look at Peppermint “mints” AKA “CANDY”. Starlight’s Peppermint Candy is a very common candy. Likely it is one that the author of that article would approve.
Let’s look at the ingredients[3]: “Sugar, Corn syrup, Titanium Dioxide, FD&C Red 40, Natural Peppermint Oil.” WHERE does the flavoring come from in the candy mints? Yup, Peppermint oil.
Look what else is in it: Sugar, Corn syrup, Titanium Dioxide, FD&C Red 40. Every single one of those are harmful ingredients.[4][5][6] So tell me, which would you rather do to freshen your breath: one drop of peppermint oil with no other additives and nothing harmful in it or a mint which starts out with peppermint oil and then adds some sugar, corn syrup and chemicals likely to be carcinogenic, linked to allergies, hyperactivity, learning impairment, irritability and aggressiveness?
Not only does Healthline’s article recommend NOT to ingest Peppermint oil but it has a list of 25 sources at the end of the article which lists an NIH (US Department of Health and Human Services, National Institutes of Health) article[7] as a source. The safety information found there has the first point as this:
“Peppermint oil appears to be safe when taken orally (by mouth) in the doses commonly used. Excessive doses of peppermint oil can be toxic.”
How did the author of the first article come to her conclusion of “sticking to mints” to freshen your breath? Beat’s me. What do you think?
Giving a Raindrop this morning to a friend. In the background her two little girls were playing together sweetly. They had clay at the kitchen table and were playing “pretend”. They pretended to be different sets of people. This is the way it went:
Little Girl #1: Who are you?
Little Girl #2: Me? I’m Elsie… who are YOU?
Little Girl #1: I’m Rosie
Elsie : Oh, Okay
*both little girls working with the clay and chitter-chattering back & forth …
(Photo from photobucket)
Elsie: Can I come to your house and sleep tonight?
Rosie: Yes! You can sleep in my bed. Two girls in ONE bed….
Elsie: Yay! I love you, Rosie!!!
Rosie: I love YOU Elsie…..
Elsie: I love YOU Rosie….
Rosie: I love YOU TOO Elsie….
Elsie: We’re having FUN!!
Rosie: YES!!
*girls kept playing and chattering back/forth as different people…. repeatedly expressing their love for one another every couple sentences……
and then:
Elsie: I’m sorry I was a butt yesterday!
(the mother & myself burst out laughing SO HARD and I could seriously barely contain myself)
Rosie: what? when?
Elsie: yesterday, at your house, when we were playing, what I said….
Rosie: Oh….. Okay….. that’s okay…
*back to playing as the momma & I struggled to compose ourselves and it led me to thinking …..
Photo from Photobucket
So sweet…. little girls, as sisters, being best friends. Took me back to the days my oldest 2 daughters were little and they would play so sweetly. *sigh…. they grow up so fast, it’s a whirlwind….
I don’t know whether Elsie was actually playing she’d been a “butt” or whether she was actually apologizing, but you know she knows she should be apologizing when she’s a “butt”.
We (or should I say I?) need to take a lesson from the little girls playing …. and apologize when I’m a butt. And sweet little Rosie, first of all, she had no idea when her sister/friend had BEEN a “butt” …… wonder why? …… maybe because she’d already forgiven and forgotten.
Another lesson….. forgive others when they’re a “butt”.
Forgiveness in action, good job, Momma …. you’re training them well….. thank-you, Lord for the simple sweet lesson.
Well, whomever it was that made up that saying never was a breastfeeding mother. For if she WAS, then she would KNOW what it takes to package that liquid gold and how very precious and life-giving it is. Many a mother I know HAS cried if she spilled her pumped breast milk.
Liquid Gold Photo credit: Bing
Not long ago in one of my “oily groups” one of my downline posted this line:
“I just spilled half a bottle of sacred frankincense on the floor. I forgot I took the dropper cap out and turned it right over onto the floor. I’m going to lay in bed and cry the rest of the evening! This might be worse than the time I spilled 6 oz of freshly pumped breast milk!” from Katie K.
Member Price $89.75 Retail Price $118.09
If you’ve ever been a breastfeeding mother or the partner of a breastfeeding mother then you totally understand the comparison. That stuff is like liquid gold, I kid you not! It was no surprise, then, when there came a lot of commiserating with the following comments:
“Did this with Grapefruit two weeks ago. On the plus side, grapefruit is MUCH cheaper, so sorry for your loss.” Sarah S.
Member Price: $16.75 Retail Price: $22.04
“OH! I would be so horrified, so sorry!” Tracie W.
“OH my GOODNESS, I’m SO very SORRY! I totally GET it!! I too have spilled freshly pumped breast milk AND left oils open ALL NIGHT LONG!” Aurora I.
“OH! I so understand! Hubby accidentally drained about half a bottle of PanAway into our mattress one time.” Erin M.
Member Price: $74.50 Retail Price: $98.03
“I did that once and it was frankincense too. I used the glass dropper I had and tried to suck up the oil from my office chair mat. I was so upset.” Stephanie B.
“I did this with Clarity. A pretty expensive mistake, too. I got as much of it as I could with a paper towel and put it in a covered glass container. I use it now to inhale.” Tiffany C.
Member Price: $38.50 Retail Price: $50.66
“I once dropped a brand new bottle of thieves on my tile floor – that was bad enough! I can’t imagine dropping Sacred Frank…. my condolences!” Maureen M.
Member Price: $33.75 Retail Price: $44.41
“I’m so sorry, my sister did the same thing last week and lost the whole bottle. I’m so sorry.” Pamela M.
“A full bottle of ledum in the recliner and a brand new Claraderm spray in the carpet over here!” Erica J.
Member Price: $62.75 Retail Price: $82.57
“I did this recently with Peace & Calming on my daughter’s dresser while getting her ready for bed. I frantically wiped it up with my hands and rubbed it all over my chest and back. Great part about Peace & Calming is that I was so relaxed after rubbing all that on me that I was no longer upset about it! LOL.. It’s so frustrating when that happens, especially with an expensive oil. I’m sorry.” Gina A.
My own loss: “Mine was Ylang Ylang, the whole bottle, granddaughter dumped it, and my kids cleaned it up AND THREW THE PAPER TOWELS AWAY so sad when that happens indeed!! On the plus side, my house smelled fantastic for several days!”
Member Price: $40.75 Retail Price: $53.62
AND THEN WE HAD SOME ADVICE, and some GOOD advice at THAT!:
“Soak it up with cotton balls and stick around the house or a wash cloth and smell it all day.” Miranda R.
“Use a clean cotton cloth to wipe it up then put it in a bag in fridge, that should make it where you can at least inhale it each day for a few days. It might work. Also wipe it all over your body.” Gloria D.
“Lay on the floor and ROLL in it!” Barbara W.
“Sniff the floor for the next few weeks!, I feel your pain!” Sharon H.
“Roll around in it and then charge people $15 to come and smell you!” Marissa
“I’ve definitely thought about licking the floor before.” Havalah M.
“Lie down in it!” Terri W.
Totally reminds me of the scene in Cheaper by the Dozen where all the china is broken, and the mom asks….is everything broken? Even the little tea cup with the flower on it?”
You just gotta let it go….. but I love the idea of trying to salvage from the loss… what are your ways of making the best of that bad situation?
Offer the A-R-T Day Activator as a promotion ..do it in a month that I need a lot of STUFF…… that’s ONE way to get people purchasing it, that’s ONE way….
April 2014 Promo
I was quite happy with my home-created skin moisturizer…yes, yes, I was…..quite happy…..quite happy indeed…..
Here is one recipe I follow and love……
But now? Now that I have the A-R-T Day Activator….. NOW….. I NEED it! Wow, it REALLY makes my skin feel smooth and did from the VERY FIRST application. Wow, just WOW!
“An extraordinary day cream, the ART Day Activator contains the superior Photolyase enzyme that uses visible light on damaged DNA. This light-bodied, water-based face and neck cream absorbs quickly and is perfect for wearing underneath makeup and sunscreen.”
as I said, “WELL-PLAYED, Young Living Marketing Team, WELL-PLAYED…..
I saw this video clip today and it just CRACKS me up…..so I figured you would like it too!
NingXia Red is an AWESOME whole-body nutrient infusion. It is created using orange, yuzu, lemon and tangerine essential oils mixed with the Ningxia wolfberry from China.
The benefits:
supports normal cellular function
supports good health and wellness
supports normal immune response
helps maintain normal eye health
provides d-limonene, a powerful antioxidant
supports healthy weight management when combined with a healthy diet and physical activity
“Cam didn’t nap today and was having a major meltdown. (Cam is the older child, quite adorable even if she does have a mischievous twinkle to her eye, I can attest! 🙂 )
I didn’t have any Peace & Calming OR Lavender…..so I dug out some old J&J lavender wash from like 3 years ago…….
It smelled AWFUL!!! Hurry up Friday so I can order more Peace & Calming!!!!”
*I asked her why she was waiting for Friday and she said, “PAYDAY”…. ahhhh yes, there IS that…. Knowing her to be VERY “crunchy” I then asked why she even HAD any J&J considering the toxicity. She said she thought she had thrown it away and was looking for her Lavender castile soap but found that and……
“I was DESPERATE, so I thought I’d try it…….NOT!”
* told her she needed to GET RID of that “nasty-stuff”…. and she said….
“I already dumped the rest of the J&J and then I remembered….
hey, I STILL HAVE MY LAVENDER SAMPLES!!!!”
*SCORE!!! ….nice that the Premium enrollment kit also has some samples…. which you can either use or share.
Maybe they should make that kit in 15ml bottles, eh?
Thanks for sharing your story, Mikala!!
3 John 2 “Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may PROSPER and be in GOOD HEALTH, just as your SOUL PROSPERS.”
Are you a young mother, busy with the duties of caring for your family? Or are you a mother of young children that need your constant attention every waking second of every day? Do your feet hit the floor running and by the end of the day you fall into bed and as soon as your head hits the pillow you’re out like a light? Is free time those few minutes on the toilet with little voices calling, “Mom, Mom, Mom…where ARE you???” ….while little fingers (and paws) pry under the doorway….
Or maybe you cannot even find THOSE few minutes to yourself. Are you a stay-at-home mother or a working mother either one….neither is free from the constant caring for that child or tribe of children that came forth from your body, that extracted your heart from your body in an instant, that instant they were born and made everything you live for painfully outside of your ability to control?
It isn’t really exclusive to mothers, fathers do it too….. Do you spend myriads of time running a taxi-service to get your offspring to music lessons and sporting events and speech therapy, the occasional doctor and dentist appointments and don’t EVEN think about the pets!! Play dates, girl/boy scouts, church events…. Then they get a little bit older and you have to juggle their friends too! Then a little bit MORE time passes and they juggle jobs and driving and who gets the car? dating and band practice…college visits……a wedding…. and BAM they’re gone! Not kidding! They’re gone in a millisecond…..
Do you always put those children first? Of course you do, we all do. We have to, they need that. As infants they depend on us for every single thing pertaining to life. As they mature, they need training, and direction along with love and care.
But first doesn’t mean ONLY. You teach your children how to care for themselves by example by how you care for yourself. Do you eat healthy meals or just finish whatever they left on their plates? Do you even remember to eat at ALL? Do you get enough water every day? Are you exercising? Do you get fresh air? Do you take time to nurture your spirit and take care of your emotions day-to-day? Do you keep your relationships CURRENT (don’t let the sun go down on your anger)? Do you say please, thank-you, I was wrong, and I’m sorry?
You don’t? So then, you don’t take care of YOU? Well….. STOP IT! Just STOP it! Too busy? You’re too busy NOT to take care of you….. just STOP IT! Take it from Dr. Switzer…. cause, he’s a doctor…. watch how he handles this lady with her problem…. his advice goes for “NOT TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF”!!!!
When you forget about taking care of yourself…..JUST STOP IT….. and DO it! Take care of YOU! You are the only mother (or father) that child/those children have…they need you, both to teach them…and to be there for them.
Take time to meet your own needs as you care for your families!!
3 John 2 “Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may PROSPER and be in GOOD HEALTH, just as your SOUL PROSPERS.”
Oprah says, “Everybody’s got a story!” True story! Everybody’s got issues too. If you don’t deal with life’s issues, you will wind up being one of the “walking wounded” – someone who has been damaged or defeated psychologically or emotionally by their experiences in life. If you harbor the emotions you will also wind up physically ill, maybe even die prematurely.
What is it that makes the difference between someone who rises ABOVE their circumstances and someone who is beaten down by them? Gavin DeBecker, author of several best-seller books, and three-time presidential appointee and the nation’s best-known expert on the prediction and management of violence. writes about this issue in The Gift of Fear. He shares how meeting with a group of recovering addicts graduating from a social program within one prison he was asked to discuss with them his own experience of growing up. He shared, “Before I was thirteen, I saw a man shot, I saw another beaten and kicked to unconsciousness, I saw a friend struck near lethally in the face and head with a steel rod, I saw my mother become a heroin addict, I saw my sister beaten, and I was myself a veteran of beatings that had been going on for more than half my life.” They wanted to know what made the difference between him being on the OUTSIDE of the prison, and them being on the INSIDE. He credits his 5th grade teacher with having invested in him and making him feel worthwhile…giving him the connection to self-worth.
I would also add that it had to be more something WITHIN him. He had to embrace an attitude of forgiveness. He had to work through the emotions of what had happened to him.
Following is the testimony of a very dear friend of mine, after she participated in an Emotional Release session as taught by CARE, facilitated by our dear friend, Heather Brock.
“I have never liked lavender, but have tried to since it seems to be a favorite of midwives. When I got to Carla Hartley’s house last Wednesday, (for an oils training workshop) she was so lovely to diffuse a generous amount in my room. I couldn’t breathe! My chest felt so heavy. 2 days later, I learned that it is associated with abandonment issues. Explains a lot.
God used the Emotional Release class that Friday to go deep down into these emotional wounds and bring about great healing. And now I don’t hate lavender anymore!”
(* Note: For more information on which oils are associated with which emotions, see: Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils, by Carolyn Mein. Your appreciation of pure therapeutic grade essential oils will change depending on the emotional issues you are dealing with……or NOT dealing with! If you ever do NOT LIKE an oil, it’s probably an emotional issue.)
You may think that is pretty insignificant, but it is JUST SO NOT EVEN A LITTLE INSIGNIFICANT if you know her story. Terri is a very dear woman, a believer in Jesus, a fellow AAMI student, a Trust Birth conference speaker, founder of Birth Freedom Network.
Here is her story:
“I am writing this and making it public because even today, we talk about babies in the womb and abortion as philosophical concepts. But they are PEOPLE. They can’t tell you that. Aborted “fetuses” cannot speak to you and tell you what they feel and know. But I can. I remember. And I speak for the millions of babies whose lives are violently torn from them, in the name of choice.
I am Terri, and I am an abortion survivor.
I remember. Babies who are aborted feel pain. I don’t give a flying flip when the politicians have determined that a baby is “pain capable.” That is baloney. Babies know. Babies feel. No matter WHEN the abortion happens, they know. And they feel. I remember conception. I remember the abortion. I remember rejecting my mother long before I was ever born, and that memory happened before I knew my story. I didn’t know why I had rejected her, but now that is painfully obvious. I don’t hate her. I do forgive her. I am sad for the pain she must have been in to make such a decision. But know this. Her pain does not remotely compare to the pain my twin felt when she was aborted, nor to the pain I felt when she was violently ripped from me. Not even close. It came unbidden, out of nowhere. I drove home from work, and my sister’s song “Separate Ways” by Journey played. I reflected on her leaving as she was aborted. “If you must go, I wish you love. You’ll never walk alone. Take care, my love. Miss you love. Someday love will find you; break those chains that bind you. One night will remind you how we touched and went our separate ways.” But I’ve listened to this a hundred times before and thought of her. Tonight was very different. The full force of the memory of the abortion slammed me out of nowhere, with a furious intensity that even I had never experienced before. I remembered. I remembered her literally being sucked away from me. My reaching for her. She had shoved me, kicked me out of the way just before, and we were being ripped apart from each other, with a violence that no human should ever have to experience. We were tiny babies. But we knew each other. And we loved each other. It’s like she was part of me. And the “boo” (I used to cry out as a baby in fear of “the boo.” Now I know what it was.) the boo came and sucked her away. But she didn’t die immediately. She felt it. She KNEW what was happening to her. And I did too. And I couldn’t stop it. I couldn’t save her. I screamed. She screamed. Terror. Anguish. Pain. And then quiet. She was gone. And I was alone. Where once had been two was only me. And God quieted me with His love. I had to be invisible. So she wouldn’t know I was still there yet.
Someone commented recently, “So the silent scream is real?” Yes. It is. I felt it tonight as the memory came back with the most violent intensity I have ever experienced, and every cell of my body screamed NOOOOOOOOO! As I drove, I screamed with everything within me – Noooo, noooo, nooooo, nooooo! Tears streamed down my face clouding my view as sobs racked my body. I am not sure how I stayed on the road.
The memories of losing my sister are so vivid and real. It is the deepest, most gut-level grief I have ever experienced.”
Silent Scream….WARNING TRIGGER…..ACTUAL FOOTAGE OF ABORTION
Poem my daughter wrote for me – from my aborted twin sister’s perspective
by Angel LaPoint on Friday, August 24, 2012 at 12:58pm ·
“Those of us who write anything: poems, songs, stories, know that sometimes God wants us to write something specific. No matter what time it is. I got this at around 3 am. It is a poem from my mother’s twin sister to my mother. For those of you who don’t know, my mother found out at the beginning of this year that her mother tried to abort her, and succeeded in aborting her twin sister. This poem is from God and my aunt but it was written down by me. There is no way I could have written this on my own.”
My Love, My Life, My Sister
I could have changed the world. I know I would have changed yours.
I could have been a singer, a dancer, an actress.
I could have simply been a mother, a sister, a wife.
I could have been anything I wanted; but I never got the chance.
My life was taken from me before I had the chance to live it; but you survived.
I knew I was going to die, even though I didn’t want to.
I knew I had a choice to save you or to take you with me.
I pushed you out of the way, to safety, to God’s arms.
Our mother took my life; I couldn’t let her take yours.
One of us had to live to fulfill all God has planned.
My choice was made for me, you can still make yours.
Go my love, my sister, my twin; go and live the life you choose to live.
The life I never got.
I will always be with you, watching you, happy.
We will meet again, someday, and when that day comes, nothing and no one can separate us.
(*My comments: You may have trouble believing someone could remember being in the womb, but there is quite a bit of evidence available to collaborate what Terri speaks about. I’ve personally talked to several people who have memories pre-birth. That is a subject for another day, or perhaps a rabbit trail for you.)
You may be familiar with the name Gianna Jessen, she herself an abortion survivor, speaker and singer who has shares her story publicly. The recent movie, October Baby depicts the story of a young woman when she discovers she was adopted along with the additional information that her birth mother had tried to abort her. It delves into the issue of post-abortion syndrome, touches on Gianna’s story and features some of her music.
Terri with Gianna at the Red Carpet Screening of October Baby in her home state, AL.
More from Terri: “The more I learn about post-abortion syndrome, the more I realize that my mother’s behavior through the years is NOT a mystery. Nobody has ever been able to really figure her out, and I’ve heard everything from schizophrenia to bi-polar, but the closest I could ever figure out was borderline personality disorder. But now I finally know that her behavior is actually quite predictable and expected for someone who has had abortions. Her responses to me, whom she thought she had aborted, are very normal for someone in her place. It makes it so much easier for me to forgive her and have compassion on her. It makes sense now. I cannot imagine what she has been through. And I realize that there are millions of women going through this on some level. I know it affects different people differently. The myth is that an abortion “takes care” of the problem. The reality is that the problems just get started with abortion. First of all, there are the possible PHYSICAL dangers, which are all too common: perforated uterus, nicked bowel, hemorrhage, etc. If she ends up going to the emergency room later, it isn’t connected in the medical records to the abortion. I have friends who are ER nurses in various parts of the country who see the fallout of botched abortions all the time. Then, of course, there is the devastation to the baby, usually death.
But now I have learned that there are over 44 THOUSAND abortion survivors in the US alone! For us, there are emotional consequences that have haunted us all our lives, even though many of us had no clue about the origin of these things.
On some level, there are memories and long-lasting psychological ramifications. And finally, there are the devastating psychological ramifications for the mother. She may not acknowledge them, or they may not surface for some time. She may formulate an alternate reality in order to cope. But nobody tells her before the “procedure” of the risks of long-term psychological damage, including depression, or personality disorders. I know I had no clue.
How MANY of the women walking around us every day are haunted by the memory of abortion, and how many men? We have become a generation of the walking wounded.
I am reminded of this passage in Isaiah 42:22 – 23 (from the chapter that the Lord had me read every single day for more than a month years ago – now I know why) –
22 But this is a people plundered and looted, all of them trapped in pits or hidden away in prisons. They have become plunder, with no one to rescue them; they have been made loot, with no one to say, “Send them back.” (Lit. “restore” in Hebrew) 23 Which of you will listen to this or pay close attention in time to come?
** My comments: If this story hits home for you, you CAN overcome, there IS HOPE. Terri embraced forgiveness early in her journey and you can do it now. The oils are incredibly helpful in moving through with painful emotions, past and present.
Terri, you know I love you. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for speaking out. Blessings to you.
3 John 2 “Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may PROSPER and be in GOOD HEALTH, just as your SOUL PROSPERS.”
I am a Christian, Mother, Grandmother, Young Living Independent Distributor, Life Coach, Health Coach, Raindrop Technique Specialist, Retired Homeschool mom, Retired Traditional Midwife, Monitrice, Childbirth Educator, Lactation Counselor always striving to "do better" and to live in a way that pleases my Maker and helps other people along the way.
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