Building my Young Living network is a personal journey as well as a business. I purchased a Zyto scanner to help people choose which oils and supplements they want to order and try. See here for description. But you know how it is with “toys” right? You want to play with them yourself. So I did. A lot. I’ve scanned a LOT of people. One of my friends calls it “shrink in a box” because one of HER friends opened up and shared some very personal things with me right after scanning him. She was very sure that I already knew him. I didn’t. I don’t think I’ve had a single person who disagreed with what the zyto suggests especially after looking at the emotional connection to the oils suggested.
The book, Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils, by Carolyn Mein is a great resource for discovering the emotional root of why you don’t like particular oils. We’ve affectionately nicknamed it “the BLUE book”. I have it on hand for when I want to know what oil to use for different emotions. Before I got the zyto scanner, much of my decision making was based on physical issues or smell. In other words, I started collecting oils I knew were good for breathing issues, cuts, burns, scrapes, bug bites, sore throats, upset stomach…replacing the pharmaceutical medicine cabinet and purchasing what I wanted to make recipes for personal care products. If I didn’t like the smell of an oil, then I’d look up the emotional connection and ask myself, does that resonate? At that point, I either attempt to do the personal work, or put it on a back burner for a later date :) Most illness has emotional or spiritual root(s). Some sources say as much as 90% of illness has an emotional root.
According to WellnessWatchersMD, “99% of the people who die of cancer (as well as heart disease) suffer from chronic, serious depression, anger or a combination of both emotions.” If you don’t deal with those roots then no physical medication is going to help you either. It may mask symptoms but it will erupt in other ways until you deal with it. If you harbor anger you will get stomach upset….which leads to ulcers. Or maybe instead your blood pressure will go up, and it will cause your pulse to increase, your face flushes, your head pounds…. you may eventually have a stroke from the pressure. Or maybe you will break out in hives and no source will be found. There are any number of physical ways our body responds to anger. That is one reason the scripture says not to let the sun go down upon your wrath.
According to Dr. David Stewart, in the Chemistry of Essential Oils and also in Healing Oils of the Bible, our five senses are not wired the same. Our four senses: seeing, hearing, tasting, touch are hardwired to the frontal lobes of our brain, our conscious rational mind. But our sense of smell is not the same. It is instead wired under THAT part of the brain to a piece of the brain under the cerebrum, over the roof of the mouth, which is our emotional brain, part of the limbic system. This part of the brain catalogs all memories of traumatic experiences. It holds emotional issues that are unresolved, bitterness and unforgiveness. Most of the time, we will forget traumatic experiences consciously. However, our emotional brain does NOT forget, instead it keeps an emotional record. If we continue to harbor these negative feelings, it will make us sick. That eventually results in disease. Our emotional brain doesn’t understand words or language. It does understand fragrances. The sense of smell is attached to the limbic system. Essential oils go directly into the limbic brain. When you inhale a fragrance it directly affects the emotional switchboard of the brain, the amagdala. Use of essential oils can help you get to the emotional roots of disease. “If you can get to the feelings that initiated disease, you can eliminate that disease.” says Dr. Stewart.
I’ve been studying the frequency of oils and how they resonate with particular body systems and cells. Certain oils have the same frequency and will resonate with certain cells in the body. The oil frequency is attracted by a like-frequency within the body. Lower oil frequencies become a sponge for negative energy. The frequency is what stays in the body to maintain the longer-lasting effects of the oil. One thing that stood out to me is: “The lower frequency oils can make physical changes in the body, middle frequencies can make emotional changes in the body and high frequencies can make spiritual changes in the body. The frequency of the human body averages between 62 and 68 Megahertz. Spiritual frequencies range from 92-360 MHz.” (Higley’s Reference Guide for Essential Oils 12th edition, pg 276)
So all of that is the set-up for my story.
I scanned for Rose oil one day. Alone. As in the ONLY OIL or product that my body needed. The way the zyto works is it reads the most pressing issue the body is facing and identifies which products will help meet those needs. Apparently my body was identifying the need to do some work.
Rose JUST SO HAPPENS to be the HIGHEST frequency oil at 320 MHz. Not only that, but it is the MOST EXPENSIVE oil at $185 for 5ml for Young Living distributors. THAT is the WHOLESALE price. I’m not saying it is not worth it, just that OUCH! that’s a “lotta moola”. Because I had done a CARE training, I had experienced the aroma of the Rose oil, and well, okay, I’ll just say it….did NOT like it, even a little. So scanning for an oil that will cost you a LOT of $$ when you KNOW you do NOT like said oil….well, you don’t WANT to purchase it. So since I know it is the most expensive oil, and it the highest frequency oil…which means SPIRITUAL issue…and I know I don’t LIKE it, so I go to the “the BLUE book” and the emotions listed for Rose oil are “disintegrated and fear of intimacy”.
I had very recently been living through a the loss of very close friendship. I was both grieving it and feeling betrayed. The situation had been going on a very long time, around a year. If you know women and friendships, especially ones where you talk multiple times daily, you KNOW that is a LONG time.
One thing I think it is important to point out is that the FEELINGS/EMOTIONS I was experiencing were from my PERCEPTION of what happened. Whether the thing actually happened the way I think it did or not doesn’t matter and is not important, what IS important is that it was my PERCEPTION that was causing me to harbor bitterness. If you THINK someone dies you will go through the intense work of grief whether or not the person actually did die. The recent story of the two young women who were accidentally misidentified after a tragic car accident tells the story of what the families and friends of the women went through during the one survivor’s recovery and the one that had been identified as the survivor, who had in fact died, and their book details the emotions experienced by both families.
My emotions were so volatile to the point I could not even SEE my estranged friend or hear her name without feeling angst. I hated that I felt that way, but couldn’t figure out how to get through it. I know that Scripture requires that we “forgive our offenders” or God won’t forgive us, and that He won’t hear our prayers if we don’t forgive, so I really WANTED to forgive her. (If you’re hoping for details here they are: I perceived she was wrong and she perceived I was wrong…and I’m going to venture that we were both wrong at least partly…you know what they say….each person has their own rendition of the story..and then there is the RIGHT or TRUE or ACCURATE rendition.)
I just know I wanted freedom from the prison of bad feelings. I was certainly “disintegrated” at heart. I knew I needed to forgive, but as I lamented to my husband…I just didn’t know HOW.
He and I have an ongoing battle over groceries. He has a sweet tooth and a weakness for snacking, I try very hard to eliminate those foods. It is an issue because when they’re in the house because not only does he eat them, but so do the children and so do I. I will eat it if it’s in the house. So one evening he is home and I find something in the cabinet. I’m asking him, “what is this?” He says, “I’m TRYING to do better!” I become just ENRAGED….I reply, “What do you MEAN you are TRYING to do better? You don’t TRY to do it, you either DO buy junk or you do NOT buy junk…you don’t stand there wrestling with it and it jumps up into the grocery cart, you lift it up and put it in the cart….you either DO it….or you do NOT do it….there is no TRYING! You TRY to shoot at a target, you don’t TRY not to buy junk.” Let’s just say that we did not settle that argument that night.
So as I’m reading scripture wanting to figure out how to FORGIVE my friend, I hear my own voice in my head during my recent discussion with my husband…”you don’t TRY…you either DO it or you do NOT do it.” It dawned on me: we are commanded in Scripture to forgive. It is not a request, it is not a suggestion something you CAN do if you want to, it is not a feeling. We are NOT commanded to FEEL forgiveness…we are just told to DO it. It is an act of the will. It is a verb.
I believe that God always honors the direction we’re headed, not ever expecting us to arrive fully. So I started praying…”OKAY, ALRIGHT…I will take You at Your Word, I DO forgive and I DO…I will wait for the feelings to catch up.”
I didn’t have Rose oil so I looked at which blends may have it in them. It is found in 14 different Young Living products. I had three of them and their names really resonated. The three I had were: Forgiveness, Humility, & Joy. (Sense of humor, no?)
Ingredients: Melissa, geranium, frankincense, rosewood, sandalwood, angelica, lavender, lemon, jasmine, Roman chamomile, bergamot, ylang ylang, palmarosa, helichrysum, and rose in base of sesame seed oil. Use for: Emotional Release, Emotional Support and Energy Balance
I purposed to slather myself in them as I said over & over & over the “way out statement” from “the blue book” …. I am whole and I did forgive. I did this over several days all day long every time I thought about it. I slathered forgiveness over my heart, and Humility over my belly and Joy all over my neck/hair/shoulders. If I had the thoughts that included the “angst” I denied that and said, NO, I have forgiven already. I wasn’t sure when the emotions would follow, but I trusted that they would. Days would go by and I would wonder, did it work? is it done?
Just recently after coming home from the Young Living Convention, a couple of months after “my spiritual work”…. I was looking for people to come and listen to my “Why Young Living” presentation. My estranged friend responded she would listen. The very “funny” thing is that she was always against Young Living oils and we had many “little arguments” over whether it is better quality or overpriced, usually public so I was very surprised she wanted and would be willing to listen.
My initial reaction was both surprise and WOW! OH AWESOME!! I would LOVE THAT!!…not a hint of “angst”. As the time neared for our appointment, I did experience some anxiety….WHAT IF…. it was awkward, full of arguing, ugly….but WHAT IF….it wasn’t? I used a lot of Valor for courage and Joy for hope during the days leading up to it.
She got to my home and I welcomed her in and there was nothing but excitement and it seemed on the surface as if nothing had ever come between us. She respectfully listened to me, we discussed oil differences, even compared some of her favorite oils. That led to our personal issues and the over-riding fact that we both missed our friendship. What should have been an hour visit, three hours later ended with hugs and tears and the ability for me to tentatively reach out for reconnection. She graciously responded with acceptance.
I fully believe that if I had not paid attention when my body scanned for Rose oil, I would not have done the work necessary to forgive. We may have lived forever in estrangement and my body would have suffered from the effects of unforgiveness and bitterness.
What about you? Is there someone in your life that you need to forgive? Reach out and do it before you suffer the ill-effects.
Some of the sources used for this post:
- Holy Bible, NASB
- Essential Oils Desk Reference, 5th edition
- Reference Guide for Essential Oils 12th edition, Higley
- Chemistry of Essential Oils, David Stewart
- Healing Oils of the Bible, David Stewart